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Black Women, the Matrix is unlocked - you can go now.
Classic DBR

I have been doing a lot of catching up on the blogs today. There is a lot of great material up right now. The Black Women Empowerment bloggers have not only created a new lane for conversation, they have transformed it into an information super highway! There is just so many wonderful women creating wonderful spaces for conversation. It really is inspiring. They all have their different styles and attitudes but the message is one of the same: Black Women need to MOVE ON because there is an abundance of good life outside of the matrix!

MOVING ON may mean dating outside of your race or culture, quitting a dead-end job, cutting off leeching friends and relatives or simply seeing things in a new light. No matter what your MOVE ON entails,  please do it as soon as possible. Don't let fear or uncertainty or nay-sayers stop you.They will MISS YOU once you're gone. They will CLAMOR for you to return. They will even try to trick you into thinking you have already done all you need to do. This last point is CRITICAL. Folks may try to tell you that since you've done "all the right things" all you need to do now is sit and wait. You've done "everything you can do" so you just need to sit back and relax! SMH!! This is a classic ploy at work. Don't fall into the trap. If you FEEL like something needs to change, go with your GUT. The GUT never lies.

Now, on to other news.

Kanye West - the biggest little kid on earth, had another public meltdown over the weekend at the MTV Awards. What is this, the upteenth time this man has acted like a crybaby on national television? What is his DEAL anyway? 

What I find most interesting is that black women on nearly EVERY black gossip site are coming to his defense. Taylor Swift is a stuck-up, racist white b*tch while Kanye is just some misunderstood brother fighting for justice. HUH??

I don't even know where to begin. I see how long some of these other black women have been writing and I don't know how they do it. I don't know how you consistently try to reach out to women so hell-bent on SELF-destruction. Like I said in the piece on The Root, many black women know that black men are not worthy of their defense and hard work. They know, deep down, that these men are never going to start "acting right". But instead of abandoning ship, they are just rearranging the chairs on the Titanic. They are buying time (for what, I don't know) until something happens. That something was supposed to be the election of Barack Obama. His marriage to Michelle was supposed to convince black men that typical-looking black women were worthy of the title of wife. Every successful black man was supposed to run "home" looking for their Michelle. Well, we are eight months in and none of that has happened. In fact, the illegitimacy rate has gone up since Obama took office. I guess all those happy black people were drunk off celebration last fall and made some babies? 

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Hello. I just wanted to share a video that I found today that has pissed me the hell off. I wanted to know if you could post it in your DBR alert. Now the guys face isn't in it, but I think the way he made this video is still dangerous and black women need to be on the lookout for people that would make something like this.


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Wow! You really "keep it real."
Too bad you aren't blogging during this election.
You should continue this work.
I am a white woman (who has been involved with men of different races) who applauds your handle on reality!!!
And I was lucky enough to have a black man, who although was involved with me, who was definitely not DBR (by your definition).
He had grown up in white Jewish schools so it was what he knew.
And he rose in life to become a respected professor and uplifted people of all races and genders.
Get back to this...you are a great writer!

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