Here is a classic example of DBR behavior on full display. Jamie Foxx and his radio co-<strike>whores</strike>horts "discuss" why beautiful women should only date rich men and vice-versa. I wonder what their definition of beautiful is. Shame on Kandi Burress for even participating in this mess. But I heard she was "engaged" to a man with six children or something so I shouldn't be surprised.
African-Americans have a very sick and twisted view of money and beauty. Some call it "indoctrination of European beauty standards" but I don't. I've grown up in the same country as every other African-American and have been exposed to the same media. **I** find beauty in ALL types of features, especially West-African. If I, an African-American woman and other African-American women and PLENTY of non African-American men can find a WIDE array of features beautiful then those that CAN'T see beauty in them simply DO NOT WANT TO. Most African-American men and women simply DO NOT want to see beauty in their own phenotypes and complexions. That is certainly their RIGHT but it is also your RIGHT to steer clear of folks that seek to elevate others over you. How do you benefit from that?
So how do I know that Jamie Foxx & Co.'s definition of beauty would probably not include most typical-looking black women?:
Here is Jamie Foxx with his date during the 2006 Oscar season. Notice the type of woman he takes to "high profile" red carpet events.
His "playful" treatment of a blond white woman at a Hollywood nigtclub.
His "playful" treatment of a black woman at a black nightclub
Do you think Jamie would have bent a white woman over like that in a white nightclub with white men standing around? How do you think white men would have responded to Jamie doing this? Jamie, and other DBRs like him, know their "limits" when it comes to their treatment of other women in public. Non-blacks place STRICT invisible rules and codes on Negroes when it comes to their women. They absolutely would not tolerate this kind of public display. As you can see in the small photograph above, black men have no such codes to protect black women from ANYTHING, especially other black men.
Black women, EVERYTHING a person does is a sign of their TRUE intents and motivatios. There is no such thing as "that's different" or "that doesn't count" or "those women are.....".
It is CRITICAL that you look at a person's actions and how they relate to YOU.
Black Women Behaving Badly: a terribly written piece on why "sisters" "hate" on each other and what "we" need to do to come correct. Notice that whenever there is an issue with the way black women behave towards each other no one EVER tries to find out the root cause of the animosity. Why? Because all roads lead back to DBR males. Black women don't get along because 95% of the time they are competing for and posturing over a BLACK MAN. And due to the immense "shortage" of "good black men" most black women feel like they cannot trust each other or if they help another black woman in ANY way she will have a "leg up" and snag that IBM (ideal black man). Not only is this paranoia REAL, it has been DELIBERATELY planted in black women. How many Crap & B (R&B) songs have the line "Don't listen to your girlfriends, baby, listen to yo man," or how many "relationship advisors" tell black women that we need to learn to "trust a man" and "stop listening to all those other women" because after all, they are just lonely, bitter and miserable and trying to bring you down. Now, to some extent this may be true. Women should ALWAYS look at the life circumstances of anyone trying to give them advice. But in the black community the seeds of distrust between black women were planted decades ago and the forest is overgrown. I notice that women of other races/cultures thrive on "women time" and the MEN of other cultures encourage women to fraternize. Those men realize that women gain strength from each other and tend to be happier and healthier when they have a supportive female network. DBR men, on the other hand, are threatened by any outside force helping to shape a woman's perspective. DBR men do not know how women think/feel/operate because they tend to not care. Their main concern is keeping a woman in lock-step with THEM so she can be readily available for whatever HE needs. A woman with a strong support network will likely have her friends and supporters point out the DBR and encourage her, REPEATEDLY, to kick him to the curb. But if a black woman's "network" consist of other paranoid, delusional, "loyal to brothas to the end" types of women she is more likely to be talked OUT OF making good choices. She is more likely to be told that she is "trippin'" or "needs to let a man be a man" or "better realize you got a good black man". This is why many black men like the constant bickering and drama many black women engage in. This is why they infiltrate gossip/celebrity/entertainment blogs more than any other race of HETEROSEXUAL men. This is why they say and do certain things in real life and online to get a ***RISE*** out of black women. This is why they encourage black women to devote all their attention to getting/keeping a man. Never mind the fact that black men shoot and kill each other at an alarmingly high rate and most have ZERO interpersonal skills. "Brothas" don't get along any better than "sistas" do yet this bitterness is always attributed to black women solely.
Essence, in a poor attempt at "creating dialogue" allowed an unsubstantiated, poorly researched, poorly sourced article to be published. But as you will see this is par for the course.
I will post Part 2 of this discussion tomorrow.